Surviving Narcissist Abuse and Parental Alienation
FOR HELP AND SUPPORT: support@thepowerandcontrolwheel.co.uk
With help, you CAN recover from Narcissistic Abuse, and survive Parental Alienation.
A severe type of abuse on the Power And Control Wheel is ‘weaponizing the children’ – this IS what’s referred to as Parental Alienation i.e. it’s domestic abuse.
Suicide ideation is common with victims of parental alienation. Help is available.
- Call NHS (UK) 111 if you are in urgent need.
- Call Samaritans (UK) 116 123, they are someone to talk to.
Services Available and Upcoming Events
Keep checking in with this section for updates on support sessions.
Domestic abuse is not gendered, despite media, public and legislation claiming it is. The misinformation misses the fact that slightly higher numbers of perpetrators are women. These services will highlight the Power and Control Wheel behaviours in non-gender terms.
EVENT – Surviving Narcissist Abuse and Parental Alienation
Saturday 8th February, 7:30pm GMT. Join us on the Chat.
EVENT – TAR FAMILY – Colorado Resiliance
Weekly from 22nd January 2025 23:00 to 02:00 GMT
FREE Chat – half hour UK phone / Zoom International
Nobody ‘gets’ it – a simple chat can be all it takes to find the courage of your conviction
Being alienated from your children, or trying to recover from any form of narcissistic abuse is, without a doubt, the most isolating experience. Just talking with someone who tells you ‘you’re not crazy’, ‘it DID happen’, ‘it was NOT your fault’. Being validated by someone who completely understands is a lifeline. Kindness costs nothing.
Educational ‘Talk’ Support – 1 hour Zoom / telephone
Understand Narcissist Abuse, Parental Alienation and family courts, the family scapegoating. Learn how to survive the daily onslaught of abuse. Talk through options.
- Improve your chances of reconnecting with your children.
- Make sense of the situation you’re in. What (not) to say or do.
- Learn ways to survive and function. Start recovering, despite daily trauma.
Coaching – 1 hour Zoom / telephone and regular contact
Moving forward, thriving, growing.
You’ve reached a place in your recovery where you can now make progress. You just need a helping hand, someone to guide you, to remind you how, to reach goals, rebuild.
Maybe it’s a business. Maybe it’s simply taking those next steps to find ‘you’
In-Person ‘Safe Space’ Support Sessions
FREE monthly support sessions. Email support@thepowerandcontrolwheel.co.uk for details of location, parking etc.
Free to attend, refreshments served. Donations welcome. Currently held in Somerset. I created the UK County Support Service for alienated parents. The groups I run are not only for parental alienation but also narcissistic abuse, including workplace abuse. I can help you set a support session up in your area.
NEXT DATE: Sunday 9th February 2025, Somerset. 6pm to 8pm
Online ‘Safe Space’ Support Sessions
FREE monthly support sessions. Email support@thepowerandcontrolwheel.co.uk to attend and for the Safe Space Agreement
- Connect with me on Zoom wherever you are in the world.
- Learn, meet with others, share stories.
- Be in a ‘safe space’.
NEXT DATE: Sunday 16th February 2025. 6pm to 8pm (UK time)
Live Zooms and Interviews – Posted on YouTube
Support through online interviews and podcasts
Join me online for the latest interviews and live Zoom sessions. Catch me live and join in on the group chat for all things about Narcissist Abuse. Subscribe to my YouTube channel and click on the bell for notifications, or email me on info@thepowerandcontrolwheel.co.uk to be a guest and chat about Narcissist Abuse, Parental Alienation, Workplace Abuse, Family Scapegoat Abuse and Domestic Abuse.
NEXT DATE: 8th February 19:30 GMT. Subscribe and click on the bell to be notified
Community Group Visits, Presentations, Conferences
Working in the public service sector to raise awareness, educate, validate
If you’re a Third Sector Voluntary public service provider running community groups and would like information on Parental Alienation, please get in touch. I visit and speak at support groups across the country. Recent DWP presentations explain the complexities of unresolved trauma. Email info@thepowerandcontrolwheel.co.uk
Resources
You’ll find a range of resources created by me and others in the Narcissist Abuse and Parental Alienation Communities that I believe will serve you well.
- Research, Books and Downloads
- Videos and links
Blogs
Deeper dives into insights, updates, information and the latest guidance on…
- Narcissist abuse and Parental Alienation
- Gender and Male Privilege. The Power And Control Wheel
- Updates and research. Selfcare and recovery. Legislation.
Frequently Asked Questions
Find specific answers to your questions.
The troubles with asking questions on a Facebook group are risk of ‘contempt of court’, triggering emotional onslaughts and too many varying opinions. Here, you’ll find specific answers and several possibilities – dealing with narcissist abuse and parental alienation is not ‘one size fits all’ but ‘outside of the box’ thinking and preparing for the unexpected.
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Join me and others to learn, connect, and heal from the impact of parental alienation and narcissist abuse.
There are many definitions of abuse but basically, ‘abuse’ is any action that violate a person’s Human or Civil rights. Where there is a pattern of this behaviour – where there is no remorse, no accountability, no compassion, where you deserved it – my humble opinion is that there is a narcissist involved. The only way to survive, recover, thrive and avoid narcissist abuse is to use a wide range of approaches, ‘education’ and support. It needs somebody who understands narcissist abuse. At The Power And Control Wheel, the support services also cover the wider aspects. We’ll look at the impact on your health, wellbeing and daily life too.
When someone is obstructing your parenting and access to your children, my humble opinion is that you’re not only dealing with alienating behaviours, you’re also dealing with narcissistic abuse. It might not be Narcissistic Personality Disorder, but it would potentially be co-morbid Cluster B on the spectrum. This is why you might wonder if that person is autistic, bi-polar, Borderline Personality, NPD or even sociopath or psychopath.
Do you recognize any of this:
- Your safe, loving relationship with your children is in question.
- You were fair, yet the alienator has thrown you under the bus.
- This person is not who you thought.
- You’re being accuses of what they’re doing to you (projecting)
- Your ability to parent is being sabotaged by your ex and others.
- Your children are pulling away, treating you with distain, not recognizing your place as ‘parent’, and the other parent is enabling it.
- Friends, family and others you turn to don’t ‘get’ it, “as long as they’re happy”, “they’ll figure it out when they’re older”, “You must have done something wrong”.
- Your own parents are undermining you, not helping you. It’s a betrayal.
- You’re finding it hard to work, lost your job, finances ruined, homeless.
- Smear campaigns, people turning against you, stalking, intentional undermining.
- And then there’s the schools, doctors, social services, courts, exploitation, no more contact from your children.
- A simple Child Arrangement Order C100 submitted has destroyed your life.
Is any of this familiar yet? Contact me for ‘Talk’ Support, you’re not alone.
A ‘safer space’ to learn, survive, recover and thrive
Both SUPPORT and COACHING are only £35 each session for block of two or more. Only £40 single sessions. Please let me know if you’re struggling financially, I’m trying to keep the costs as low as possible for you, your finances are taking a battering. Choose dates and times suitable for you.
Please email info@thepowerandcontrolwheel.co.uk for more information.
Parental Alienation IS narcissistic abuse!
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ABOVE: Kevin (Jack Goodings) Webb (MEd.L, BEd., BA Found., QTS). Former Trustee of Parental Alienation Awareness, set up the UK County Support Service for Alienated Parents and extended family, created the ‘Safe Space’ Agreement, Host Guide. Presented to the DBS to raise awareness and bring about change.