Coaching at PACW.

One-to-one coaching for survivors of narcissistic abuse and coercive control. Practical, structured, and built around where you are and where you want to get to.

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The difference between a Clarity Call and Coaching.

A Clarity Call is a 30-minute scheduled conversation with a qualified coach — by phone (UK) or Zoom (international). You bring your situation. You get professional insight, guidance and clarity within scope of practice. One session, no obligation to do anything next.

Coaching is different. Here is what you get that a Clarity Call does not provide:

Structure and continuity

• An agreed focus for every session — what we call contracting
• Your history, progress and patterns are held across sessions — you do not have to re-explain yourself each time
• Goals that evolve as the work identifies needs that were not visible at the start

Direction and accountability

• A specific outcome to move toward — not open-ended conversation
• Between-session focus so the work continues outside the sessions
• Progress that is trackable session by session

Education and understanding

• How your nervous system works and why it responds the way it does
• The somatic reality of trauma — what it does to the body, not just the mind
• How to map your own states and recognise what is happening in real time
• Internal Family Systems thinking — understanding the parts of you that developed to survive what happened

Practical tools

• Specific activities to use between sessions
• Worksheets that are yours to keep and return to at any point — during coaching and long after it ends

The work itself

• Moving forward intentionally, session by session, toward the life you want
• Pattern recognition across your life — not just the presenting situation
• Looking into the past specifically to understand what is running in the present

Payment is required to confirm your booking. If you have concerns about payment showing on a shared bank statement, email: support@thepowerandcontrolwheel.co.uk

Or call: 0333 242 5348

What we can work on

People come to coaching for all kinds of reasons. Some are navigating family court or trying not to lose their children permanently to an alienation campaign. Some are managing the daily weight of it — the hypervigilance, the fog, the exhaustion of a nervous system that has been under sustained, relentless pressure. Some are rebuilding from scratch. Some arrive not quite sure what they need — only that they cannot keep going the way they are going.

Your mind

Making sense of what happened. Understanding the patterns — theirs and yours. Getting clear on your values and beliefs, separate from what you’ve been told to think. Recognising red flags. Learning to observe rather than absorb. To respond rather than react. To come out of freeze. To say yes when you mean yes — and no when you mean no.

Your body

Narcissistic abuse is physical. The nervous system takes the full weight of sustained abuse — and when it has been under that pressure for months or years, it affects everything: sleep, thinking, decision-making, how you present to the world, how you function day to day. We work on this practically. Not as theory. As something you can actually use.

Your situation

Family court and contact arrangements. Parenting through alienation — including how not to hand ammunition to the other parent. Leaving safely. Workplace abuse and what to do about it. Starting over financially. Going self-employed. Surviving a faith community that turned on you. Managing gang stalking and the people around you who are being used against you.

Your agency

Your agency. This is the heart of coaching. Not what someone else thinks you should do — what you want. What matters to you. What you are not willing to accept any more. What a boundary actually means in practice. How to make a decision and hold it. How to recognise progress — because we can lose sight of that.

Your future

Your future. Where you want to be. What that looks like. The actionable steps to get there, one session at a time. Goal setting. Priorities. Marking progress. Celebrating it — because most people coming out of this have stopped letting themselves do that.