Why a group, as well as one-to-one.

There is something that happens when you hear someone else describe your exact experience, in their own words, without you having to explain any of it first. It stops feeling like something only you have lived through. Hearing how other people have made sense of it — what worked, what didn’t, what they wish they’d known sooner — teaches you things a single conversation can’t. And it tells your nervous system, not just your mind, that you are not the only one going through this. That matters.

This also works well alongside coaching.

The group is a place to be understood and to learn from others. One-to-one coaching is where we work on specifics — your work, relationships, health, nervous system, a healthy sustainable future — one session at a time, built around exactly where you are. Many people use both: the group for connection and perspective, coaching for the focused work on their own life.

Understanding what happens in your body — and what to do about it.

If you’ve lived through coercive control, your nervous system remembers it, even when the danger has passed. A tone of voice, a phrase, a date on the calendar — and suddenly you’re back there, heart racing or completely shut down, long before your thinking mind has caught up. That’s not a flaw. It’s a nervous system that learned, the hard way, to protect you.

A trigger isn’t a sign that you’re broken, or going backwards. It’s a signal — something has been recognised, correctly or not, as danger. The work isn’t to stop triggers happening. It’s to recognise them for what they are, understand them in plain terms, and know a handful of simple ways to bring yourself back: feeling your feet on the floor, slowing your breath, naming what’s happening — even just in your head — ‘this is my alarm going off, and I am safe right now.’ Small, physical, repeatable things. Not therapy exercises — just ways of helping your body catch up with the fact that the room you’re in now is not the room the danger happened in.

This is what lets you self-lead, on the harder days as well as the easier ones — not because the difficult days stop coming, but because you have something to do when they do. It’s how you keep functioning, day to day and long term. How you protect what you’ve built, what you’ve studied for, what you’ve worked hard for, instead of losing it to a nervous system stuck on emergency mode. How you think clearly enough, and remember clearly enough, to make good decisions again. How you keep the people who don’t have your best interests at heart further from your life, so their control over you loses its grip. Recovery isn’t a straight line, and it isn’t about pretending the last chapter didn’t happen — it’s about building toward the point people describe as ‘thriving’ rather than surviving. Living, not just getting through the day — for yourself, and for the people who matter to you.

Who it’s for

Anyone affected by coercive control — survivors of narcissistic abuse, parental alienation, family scapegoating, workplace or community harassment, spiritual and relationship abuse. You don’t need to have done coaching first. UK and international, wherever you’re joining from.

A few things to keep everyone safe

• Please don’t name anyone else in the session, and please don’t discuss any live or ongoing court case — for legal reasons, and out of respect for people who aren’t there to speak for themselves.
• If you’d rather not be identifiable, set your Zoom display name to something that doesn’t give away who you are.
• What’s shared in the group is asked to stay in the group. The Zoom host will hold to that also — but with several people in a session, it’s not guaranteed what others do with what they hear, so please share at the level you’re comfortable with.
• Please join with your mic / sound off, to avoid feedback.
• Please make sure to have your video camera turned on at the start. It’s ok to turn the camera off during the session.

Prefer to talk one-to-one?

What happens in a session

Sixty minutes over Zoom. No pressure to speak if you don’t want to — some weeks you’ll want to share what’s going on for you, some weeks you’ll want to sit, listen, and take from others. Both are completely fine. Each session opens with a ‘safe space’ and a short check-in. It’s a shared, community-guided conversation from there.

How to join

Book your place. The Zoom link will be on your booking confirmation. You’ll wait in the Zoom waiting room and you’ll be let in — the link only ever goes out through booking, so please don’t share it on. Sessions are not recorded.

Booking and payment

Payment is required to confirm your place, and holds your seat for that session. If you have concerns about payment showing on a shared bank statement, email support@thepowerandcontrolwheel.co.uk before booking — we’ll arrange it privately and safely.

There is no refund for group sessions — once paid, that’s it. Group size is kept small enough to stay personal, so please only book if you’re able to attend.