Kevin Webb – Somatic Trauma Coach
Dad. Christian. Coach. Educator. Musician. Artist. INFJ. Survivor
“He steps on the cracks that others step over.”
— Adrian Long, Headteacher
Kevin Webb is a dad, a Christian, a musician, an artist, and a coach. He has had great times and very hard times — stability and chaos, success and collapse, connection and profound loss, sometimes all within the same chapter.
He does not work with survivors from a distance. He is one.
Kevin grew up in a large, warm, close family in the Black Country, Midlands — secure, grounded, and loved. He had a solid first seven years. Then his mother took him away from that family, from his father’s side, from his brother, and from everything familiar.
What followed — foster care, a children’s home, instability, and eventually leaving the country — was the start of a long process of understanding what had been done, and why.
In his twenties, following a move to America, Kevin found himself homeless on the streets of Texas — sleeping in his car, no job, no flat. Throughout this time, people showed up. Perry and Larissa. His life-long friend Joel. His boss Terry Wettig. John, Barry, Jay from The Ventilators. People who believed in him, gave him space to make mistakes, and helped him find his footing again. He has never forgotten what that felt like — and it became the foundation of everything he now does.
Back in the UK, with no qualifications, he studied long and hard, earned several degrees and built a 25+ year career in education — teacher, Head of ICT, Assistant Headteacher, Subject Advisor for Initial Teacher Training, Specialism Director. He led schools, shaped careers, and helped a school avoid closure with a four-year action plan — securing a £250,000 grant, the first of its kind, recognised with an award at the Oval.
In 2010, redundancy. He retrained, rebuilt, and launched guitar repair and music programmes for homeless and unemployed people across the South Wales Valleys — himself homeless for a year while still delivering. He secured European Social Funding, won a national EU Funds Award for the progress made with individuals, and helped over 25 people improve their employability while partnering with DWP and Careers Wales as a registered provider. One of those people opened his own guitar shop.
The experience behind the coaching
Kevin is an INFJ — the rarest of the sixteen personality types. INFJs are known for deep empathy, an almost uncanny ability to read beneath the surface of what people present, pattern recognition, and a strong sense of calling. They are also the personality type most commonly targeted by narcissists, who are drawn to the INFJ’s warmth, loyalty, and reluctance to see the worst in people.
It is partly how Kevin could see it in others long before he could see it in himself.
He began working in the narcissistic abuse community in 2018, after his own reality finally gave way under sustained gaslighting and sabotage. Narcissistic abuse hadn’t found him once — it had followed him repeatedly throughout his life. Once he could name it, he couldn’t unknow it.
Kevin is a survivor of narcissistic abuse, coercive control, family scapegoating, workplace abuse, and large-scale smear campaigns. He has experienced parental alienation — as a child, cut off from his father’s family, and as a parent. He has known estrangement. And he has known the reuniting.
He has a high ACE count. He knows what a dysregulated nervous system feels like from the inside — the fog, the freeze, the inability to think straight, the years of struggling to hold a consistent, steady level. In 2019, he reported childhood abuse to the police. He has sat with the weight of that, and worked through it.
He built a UK-wide peer support service for alienated parents — training people from within the community to lead their own groups, to find agency again, to channel their grief into something that gave back. He delivered presentations to the DWP across London and the surrounding regions, and held support group sessions and conferences.
He is currently completing a Masters-equivalent in Somatic Trauma-Informed Coaching, specialising in narcissistic abuse. CPD-accredited in Attachment-Led Theory and Practice in Parental Alienation (CAFTT). Certified Trauma-Informed Positive Psychology Practitioner. Samaritans listener. DAVIA member. CMI member. Informed by Internal Family Systems (IFS) principles. Qualified teacher since 1995. Enhanced DBS checked. DWP registered provider.
Why somatic. Why this.
Talk therapy alone is not enough. Kevin knew this before he studied it — because he lived it.
Narcissistic abuse doesn’t just affect the mind. It lives in the body. It rewires the nervous system. It changes sleep, concentration, decision-making, and daily function.
The people who helped Kevin most — Mr Ruffles the social worker who took him into his own family, the nan who introduced him to Enid Blyton and gentleness and magic, the people in Texas who gave him work and company and belief — were co-regulating him before he had the language for it. That is what good people do for each other. It is also what somatic trauma-informed coaching does, with intention.
This approach is still largely absent from formal support services, from safeguarding training, from how schools respond when good teachers begin to struggle and children disengage, disrupt, or silently over-function.
Kevin has seen what happens when that gap goes unfilled — good people judged for underperforming when what they needed was support, careers ended, families fractured, people in freefall, traumatised children falling through the gaps. He built this service because he has been that person, and because he knows what the right support actually changes.
“The body remembers what the mind tries to forget. Narcissistic abuse doesn’t just wound the psyche — it lives in the nervous system, in the tension you can’t explain, the sleep you can’t find, the fog you can’t lift. Jung understood that the darkest night precedes the deepest awakening. The destruction of the ego — as painful as it is — is also the beginning of something real. You are not broken. You are in the process of becoming.”
Faith
Kevin is a Christian, and this work is faith-led, personally.
During the hardest years — when everything was being stripped away — he began noticing things he could not explain away. The number 11, appearing so repeatedly, so precisely, and so undeniably that it demanded attention. Tangible moments of confirmation that he was being held and looked after. Evidence, in his own experience, that what lies behind narcissistic abuse is not only psychological. There is a spiritual dimension to this. The darkness behind it is real.
He prays. He quietly sits with homeless people, shares food and a hot drink, and talks about the Lord — no fanfare, no performance. He believes this work is a blessing. And he believes that if you are reading this, it may not be accidental either.
Outside the coaching room
Kevin is a dad first.
He is also a musician, a painter, a cook, a gardener, and someone who finds deep restoration in the hills of Wales, by the beach — camping stove always with him — and in the quiet of past-times villages and the simple life, as it used to be before everything got so loud and technical.
He is an introverted extrovert, soft-spoken. He loves to create — music, food, ideas, projects. He loves to ponder. He needs time alone and knows exactly why. His inner circle is small, carefully kept, and entirely on his own terms. His life is peaceful now, and he has built it that way deliberately.
He is from the Black Country, Midlands, with a history in Suffolk, Devon and South Wales. Creative and self-employed by instinct. His guitar repair and employability courses are on Udemy.
He home educates, works in the EOTAS sector, and is CEO and Director of his own limited company. And has reconnected with lost friends and times dear to him.
“When good people work with good people, great things can happen.”
– Kevin Webb
This isn’t about Kevin. It’s about you.
He has been through the hardest of times. He has learned — through living, through training, through faith, through enduring smear campaigns from people he was there for — how to regulate, how to rebuild, and how to stand firm. That is what he brings to every session.
If you are ready to talk, he is ready to listen, and ready to help you move forward.
“If you’ve read this far, then something on this page resonated with you. That’s important, and I ‘hear’ you. I don’t know exactly what you’re carrying right now, but I know it’s not helping. Possibly exhausting, damaging, immobilising, confusing, deeply unsettling and worthy of grieving. Nobody ‘gets’ it, not even us, we don’t even know how to articulate it, not in full — until we do. The mistakes we made along the way, it’s ok — we didn’t know, we weren’t supposed to know.
It may feel like you’re broken — you’re not — and you are definitely not the problem. You are not alone, many have been there and are now here. There was a victim, and there was a perpetrator who knew exactly what he or she was doing — with intent, no consideration to what it was doing to you or your loved ones — it was all about them, about power, about control — and they chose this.
You were given impossible situations, not knowing how to navigate or self regulate. You’ve done extremely well getting this far — please don’t minimise it, and please don’t be hard on yourself.
I built this because someone believed in me when I had very little reason to believe in myself. I now have the opportunity, as an informed and prepared survivor, to return that kindness in hopes that you also may be able to do the same for you and others who also were victims. Adopt the stance — zero tolerance for abuse, no exceptions, and victims are not at fault for having been abused. Let’s get you home, and move you from victim to survivor, to growth, so you can withstand whatever else comes your way, place accountability where it belongs, make peace with what has happened — and live the way that a just and loving God intended for you.
With warmth and faith,
KEVIN R WEBB
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