Surviving Narcissist

Understanding narcissistic abuse through the Power and Control Wheel

Something is wrong. You’ve known it for a long time. And nobody gets it.

Narcissistic Abuse Support & Helpline — UK and International

If you’re experiencing:

  • Parental alienation.
  • Workplace difficulties.
  • Scapegoating in your family.
  • Community gang stalking.
  • Friendships – a hidden side to them.
  • Any form of coercion and threats, minimising and blaming, financial misuse, economic control — you are not alone.

Isolation, intimidation and entitlement are not random. They’re non-gender specific tactics found on the Power And Control Wheel.

It happens in relationships. In families. Mums, dads, grandparents, siblings, husband, wife. In friendships. Workplaces. Schools and colleges. Community groups. You are not too sensitive. You’re not crazy. You are not imagining it. This is real. And it did happen.

A parent sitting alone
Parental Alienation
Your children are being weaponised and turned against you
You’re not imagining it. This has a name.
I recognise this →
Person blindfolded holding a mirror — gaslighting and manipulation
Intimate Relationship
A partner who controls, manipulates and gaslights you
You’re not going crazy. This is real.
I recognise this →
Person looking out of window alone
Adult Child
Making sense of a childhood that never felt safe
It wasn’t your fault. And it can be understood.
I recognise this →
Elderly hands clasped together
Grandparent Alienation
Shut out of your grandchildren’s lives without explanation
You are not forgotten. This has a name.
I recognise this →
Three silhouettes against a sunset — triangulation
Friendship & Community
Triangulated — betrayed, smeared and isolated by people you trusted
Performative. Coordinated. It has a name.
I recognise this →
Person alone in church pew being shamed and blamed
Faith & Spiritual Abuse
Spiritually manipulated, shamed and controlled in a faith community
Your faith was manipulated against you.
I recognise this →
Bullied, side-lined and dismissed at work, in organisations and charities
Workplace & Organisational
Bullied, side-lined and dismissed — in work, organisations and charities
You’re not overreacting. This has a name.
I recognise this →
Man alone in darkness looking out — family scapegoating
Family Scapegoating
Always blamed, never believed — the family scapegoat
You’re not the problem. This has a name.
I recognise this →
Talk to someone who ‘gets’ it

If you are in immediate danger, call 999.

National Domestic Abuse Helpline (women): 0808 2000 247 (free, 24 hours)  |  Men’s Advice Line: 0808 801 0327 | Galop (LGBTQ+) 0800 999 5428 | Samaritans: 116 123 | NHS 111 |  Victim Support 08 08 16 89 111

USA — 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline | National Domestic Violence Hotline 1-800-799-7233