Somatic Trauma-Informed Coaching

You’re here to find help from the severe trauma of Narcissist Abuse and Parental Alienation.

UK and International Coaching Support

‘Parental Alienation’ is found on the Power and Control Wheel as ‘weaponizing children‘. You MUST realize you and your children are being abused, this is not a Family Court issue. The Family Justice Council has told you already, treat this as domestic abuse, not ‘parental alienation’. Gen X alienated adult children, this is what happened to you.

To report abuse, safely get in touch with:

• UK – Police.UK
• USA – National Domestic Violence Hotline 1-800-799-SAFE (7233)

‘Abuse’ is about power and control, not Gender.

Join the YouTube ‘Chat’ – LIVE Saturday SESSIONS, 7:30pm UK.

Welcome to The Power And Control Wheel, genuine support for narcissist abuse and parental alienation. I’m Kevin, alienated adult child (Gen X) / dad, prior family Golden Child, now scapegoat, workplace abuse and malignant narcissist abuse survivor, Somatic Trauma Informed Narcissistic Abuse Coach. I’m the person who set up the UK County Support Service for alienated parents and extended family, created the Hosts Guide and ‘Safe Space’ Agreement, organized ‘accreditation status’ for a UK charity and positioned it as a recognised and credible Third Sector public service provider.

YouTube Disclaimer: Sessions are recorded and posted on the YouTube channel, along with ‘chat’ playback. The sessions are for years 18+. All videos, information and live sessions are for educational purposes only. Your ‘safeguarding’ is your responsibility. Stalking and harassment is illegal and will be reported (follow this link for more information).

Why ‘The Power and Control Wheel’?

The ‘Wheel’ features the many aspects of narcissist abuse. Alienated parents and children are being abused on a wider scale. For post-separation child arrangements, CAFCASS refers to the Power And Control Wheel (Duluth’s gendered version). UK has been told Parental Alienation is rare, and to therefore talk in terms of ‘domestic abuse’. Parental Alienation is on the Wheel (‘weaponizing / using the children’) i.e. it is domestic abuse. Also on the Wheel are the destructive power and control dynamics. These show in damaging relationships, the workplace or family (golden child / scapegoat child / cults).

Know that abuse isn’t about ‘Gender’ or ‘Male Privilege’, it’s about ‘power and control’. You’re being abused regardless your gender. When you can articulate the Wheel, you’ll more likely to have ‘parental obstruction’ dealt with in Criminal court, not Family court. It validates when you’re scapegoated. It helps you avoid terms such as ‘narcissist’, ‘abusive’, ‘parental alienation’. It corrects the false Gender and Male Privilege narrative – ‘abuse’ is NOT gendered. Learning the Wheel helps you spot dangerous people. Learn The Wheel!

‘Separated parents do not have a right to spend time with their children’. The UK Gov ‘Parental Rights and Responsibilities’

PA Support on Facebook Communities?

I’m not a fan of the Facebook PA support groups. My clients tell me “it’s too triggering”, “unsafe” and “the most difficult landscape to navigate” – I agree. The regurgitating of emotion, conflicting advice from untrained people, no clear solution, the abuser watching / stalking, fake profiles, public smear campaigns, theft of your copyright material and logos, risk of ‘contempt of court’, admins and moderators not moderating, ‘pretend’ professionalism, high risk on Safeguarding, abusive comments, gender wars, a free-for-all wild west, illegal behaviour leaking into ‘real’ world, an unsafe landscape. It’s no wonder so many alienated parents avoid subscribing to Parental Alienation social media groups.

The Parental Alienation Facebook community misses the bigger picture – it’s NOT ‘alienation’, it’s Narcissist Abuse – and support for those affected by narcissist abuse needs to be taken seriously. Understandably, the PA community also includes narcissists, they come with the territory. All these reasons I’ve mentioned are why so many people make the safe choice to tread carefully and stay clear of these Facebook communities. I spent more time trying to navigate destructive narcissism in these communities than helping you. It’s not a safe place. Please be careful in these Facebook community groups.

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Somatic Trauma-Informed Coaching Support for narcissist abuse:

I’m led by my a faith in the Lord Jesus, my saviour. I truly believe evil is real, things in our world are changing, and Truth of the Word overcomes this evil. We wrestle not with flesh and blood, but the powers and principalities of this world.

Affordable educational support for narcissist abuse is key to survival. You’ll not be ‘under my care’, you’ll not be classed as ‘vulnerable’.

This is an educational support service and information website for those who need support for narcissist abuse. For victims of parental alienation, workplace abuse, domestic abuse, family scapegoat abuse and other forms of narcissist abuse. As a survivor of each, I take this work and field of study – the trauma from narcissistic abuse – very seriously.

After leaving the UK Parental Alienation charity, I now dedicate my time to helping you directly again. I ‘get’ this abuse – I want to help you ‘see it’ too. I’ll help you understand what’s really happening in your situation. I’ll help you know what to do about it, how to recover, how to be there for your children. Regain your confidence. Say ‘no more’, and rebuild your life.

Striving to understand the power and control dynamics in the Power and Control Wheel is a big step when needing Support for narcissist abuse. Knowing you’re being abused and actively seeking help is the FIRST step. Well done for making it this far!