You found this page when you didn’t know where else to turn.

Maybe it was late. Maybe you’ve been holding it together for so long you’ve forgotten what it feels like not to. Maybe someone finally said something that made you look up and search for an answer — and you ended up here.

Whatever brought you here — you’re in a safe place.

Is this you?

Someone has been controlling your life. Not always with shouting. Not always with hitting. With something quieter — and much harder to explain to anyone who wasn’t there.

They controlled the money. Who you saw. Where you went. Your phone. Your conversations. You felt something was wrong long before you could explain it. You reacted – as one would – now you’re ‘abusive’, dangerous.

They made the rules — and when you broke them, there were consequences. Sometimes explosive. Sometimes just a look. Maybe a threat – the kids, leaving you. Threat of suicide. A shame. Obligation. God.

They told you it didn’t happen. That you remembered it wrong. That you were too sensitive. Your fault. Accused you, but they did it – DARVO.

They used people against you. Triangulated. Isolated. And when you asked for help — the people and systems that should have protected you didn’t.

You are not paranoid. You are not dramatic. You are not the problem.

What’s been done to you has a name. The person who did it knew exactly what they were doing.

A Clarity Call is where we start — together.

What it costs

£9.95 – pay what you feel, minimum £9.95

Your contribution helps keep this service running for other survivors who need it.

Some of you can’t see your children. You watch them pulling away and there’s nothing you can do.

Some of you grew up in this. Always the problem. Never enough. Estranged from your other parent. Quietly falling apart while holding everything together.

Some of you gave everything — and are only now seeing it was never equal. You lost your children – and yourself – completely.

Payment is required to confirm your booking. If you have concerns about payment showing on a shared bank statement, email support@thepowerandcontrolwheel.co.uk before booking — we’ll arrange your call privately and safely.

The Clarity Call

This is 30 minutes for you.

You talk. I listen — properly. I reflect back what I hear, without judgement, without agenda, without telling you what to do. For validation and clarity.

I can’t give you legal advice. I’m not a therapist or a counsellor. What I can do is hear you, name what I’m hearing, and help you find some ground under your feet, a way forward, discuss the most pressing issues. Living, finances, work, legal. Stress. ‘Anger’. Seeing your children. How to ‘be’.

You might leave with a word for what’s been done to you. You might leave with one clear next step. You might just leave knowing you are not going crazy — and that someone finally sees it. For now, that might be enough.

• 30 minutes, one to one, just you and me
• Phone (UK) or Zoom (international)
• You choose the time
• No forms. No waiting list. No surprises.
• No agenda. No pressure. No judgement.

Confidentiality

Everything you share stays between us — within the limits of the law.

I will only ever share anything if there is an immediate risk of serious harm, a court or coroner’s order, or a disclosure involving terrorism or FGM. Where possible, I will discuss this with you first.

These calls are not medical or clinical and do not affect your medical records. Your data is held securely and never shared.