Being told your soul agreed to your suffering before birth can sound like comfort. For many survivors it lands as blame. This is where the Akashic Records and soul contract ideas come from, what Scripture actually says, and why responsibility for abuse belongs with the person who chose to harm.
When faith is used to control, shame, or silence you, the damage goes deeper than most abuse. It attacks who you are and what you have trusted. This page explains what spiritual abuse in church looks like, why leaving is so hard, and why what happened to you was not your fault.
The child is not the target. The child is the weapon. The grief has no name, no ritual, no public acknowledgement — your child is alive, and you cannot mourn them. The science is less contested than it looks. The most powerful thing you can offer your child is a parent who hasn’t been destroyed…