Surviving Narcissist Abuse and Parental Alienation
FOR HELP AND SUPPORT: support@thepowerandcontrolwheel.co.uk
With help, you CAN recover from Narcissistic Abuse, and survive Parental Alienation.
A severe type of abuse on the Power And Control Wheel is ‘weaponizing the children’ – this IS what’s referred to as Parental Alienation (PA) i.e. it’s domestic abuse and needs to be spoken of as such, not focused solely on PA.
Suicide ideation is common with victims of parental alienation. Help is available.
- Call NHS (UK) 111 if you are in urgent need.
- Call Samaritans (UK) 116 123, they are someone to talk to.
Services Available
Keep checking in with this section for updates on support sessions.
Domestic abuse is not gendered, despite media, public, women’s feminist group disinformation and legislation claims. These services highlight the Power and Control Wheel behaviours in non-gender terms. The support services available here can help you:
- Improve your chances of reconnecting with your children.
- Make sense of the situation you’re in. What (not) to say or do.
- Learn ways to survive, function and thrive, despite ongoing trauma.
- Articulate the psychological and physiological abuse and trauma.
- Understand and overcome the challenges an abused person faces.
FREE Chat – half hour UK phone / Zoom International
Nobody ‘gets’ it – a simple chat can be all it takes to find the courage of your conviction
Being alienated from your children, or trying to recover from any form of narcissistic abuse is, without a doubt, the most isolating experience. Just talking with someone who tells you ‘you’re not crazy’, ‘it DID happen’, ‘it was NOT your fault’. Being validated by someone who completely understands is a lifeline. Kindness costs nothing.
Somatic Trauma Informed Coaching – 1 hour Zoom or telephone sessions.
Moving forward, thriving, growing – at the pace your nervous system can handle.
You’ll need help reaching a place of stability. This will involve being able to talk, reflect, regroup and rebuild. With a helping hand, someone to guide you to set and reach goals.
Let’s take those next small steps to stabilize, gain insight, understand, and find a way forward, to regain your life and ‘you’. Recovery is a process.
In-Person ‘Safe Space’ Support Sessions
Regular support sessions. Email support@thepowerandcontrolwheel.co.uk for details of location, parking etc. Training available to help hold your own support sessions.
Refreshments served. Currently held in Somerset. The groups I run are for parental alienation and other forms of narcissistic abuse, including workplace abuse. This is a safe space with Safeguarding and wellbeing as priority. As the author and owner of the Safe Space Agreement and the Support Group Host Guide to support individuals UK-wide (trained and qualified), the support group I run truly is a Safe Space.
Online ‘Safe Space’ Support Sessions
Now and then I hold International online support sessions for those who have experienced narcissistic abuse. Email support@thepowerandcontrolwheel.co.uk to find out more.
- Connect with me and others on Zoom wherever you are in the world.
- Learn and share your story.
- Be in a ‘safe space’.
Educational Support.
Understand narcissistic abuse, parental alienation, family courts, scapegoating, and workplace abuse. With lived experience and professional training in the field of International Somatic Trauma Informed Coaching, I offer insights through a practical, psychological, and somatic lens, addressing not just what victims face — but why.
For professionals, schools, and you — the survivor ready to heal.
Email info@thepowerandcontrolwheel.co.uk for information and bookings.
Zooms and Interviews
Support through online interviews and podcasts
Join me online for live Zoom sessions. Join in on the group chat for all things about Narcissist Abuse. Email me on info@thepowerandcontrolwheel.co.uk to be a guest and chat about Narcissist Abuse, Parental Alienation, Workplace Abuse, Family Scapegoat Abuse and Domestic Abuse.
Watch the FULL interview with Maryann Petri of Slam The Gavel, USA
Community Group Visits, Presentations, Conferences
Working in the public service sector to raise awareness, educate, validate
If you’re a Third Sector Voluntary public service provider running community groups and would like information on Parental Alienation, please get in touch. I visit and speak at support groups across the country. Recent DWP presentations explain the complexities of unresolved trauma. Email info@thepowerandcontrolwheel.co.uk
Resources
You’ll find a range of resources created by me and others in the Narcissist Abuse and Parental Alienation Communities that I believe will serve you well.
- Research, Books and Downloads
- Videos and links
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- Narcissist abuse and Parental Alienation
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- Updates and research. Selfcare and recovery. Legislation.
Frequently Asked Questions
Find specific answers to your questions.
The troubles with asking questions on a Facebook group are risk of ‘contempt of court’, triggering emotional onslaughts and too many varying opinions. Here, you’ll find specific answers and several possibilities – dealing with narcissist abuse and parental alienation is not ‘one size fits all’ but ‘outside of the box’ thinking and preparing for the unexpected.
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Connect, and heal from the impact of parental alienation and narcissist abuse.
There are many definitions of abuse but basically, ‘abuse’ is any action that violate a person’s Human or Civil rights. Where there is a pattern of this behaviour – where there is no remorse, no accountability, no compassion, where you deserved it – my humble opinion is that there is a narcissist involved. The only way to survive, recover, thrive and avoid narcissist abuse is to use a wide range of approaches, ‘education’ and support. It needs somebody who understands narcissist abuse. At The Power And Control Wheel, the support services also cover the wider aspects. We’ll look at the impact on your health, wellbeing and daily life too.
When someone is obstructing your parenting and access to your children, my humble opinion is that you’re not only dealing with alienating behaviours, you’re also dealing with narcissistic abuse. It might not be Narcissistic Personality Disorder, but it would potentially be co-morbid Cluster B on the spectrum. This is why you might wonder if that person is autistic, bi-polar, Borderline Personality, NPD or even sociopath or psychopath.
Do you recognize any of this:
- Your safe, loving relationship with your children is in question.
- You were fair, yet the alienator has thrown you under the bus.
- This person is not who you thought.
- You’re being accuses of what they’re doing to you (projecting)
- Your ability to parent is being sabotaged by your ex and others.
- Your children are pulling away, treating you with distain, not recognizing your place as ‘parent’, and the other parent is enabling it.
- Friends, family and others you turn to don’t ‘get’ it, “as long as they’re happy”, “they’ll figure it out when they’re older”, “You must have done something wrong”.
- Your own parents are undermining you, not helping you. It’s a betrayal.
- You’re finding it hard to work, lost your job, finances ruined, homeless.
- Smear campaigns, people turning against you, stalking, intentional undermining.
- And then there’s the schools, doctors, social services, courts, exploitation, no more contact from your children.
- A simple Child Arrangement Order C100 submitted has destroyed your life.
Is any of this familiar yet? Contact me for ‘Talk’ Support, you’re not alone.
A ‘safer space’ to learn, survive, recover and thrive
Both SUPPORT and COACHING are only £40 each session for block of two or more. Only £45 single sessions. Please let me know if you’re struggling financially, I’m trying to keep the costs as low as possible for you, your finances are taking a battering. Choose dates and times suitable for you.
Please email support@thepowerandcontrolwheel.co.uk for more information.
Parental Alienation IS narcissistic abuse!
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Kevin Webb (MEd.L, BEd., BA Found., QTS). Former Trustee of a UK Parental Alienation organization, set up a UK County Support Service for Alienated Parents and extended family, created a ‘Safe Space’ Agreement, Host Guide. Presented to the DWP to raise awareness and bring about change.