Why ‘The Power And Control Wheel’?

A Massive Welcome!

I’m Kevin Webb — a Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Coach and Somatic Trauma-Informed Practitioner.

I specialize in helping people heal from the lasting effects of narcissistic relationships, parental alienation, family scapegoating, and workplace abuse. This site was created to offer support, education, and faith-based guidance for those still feeling stuck after years of struggle. If that’s you, you’re not alone — and healing is possible.

I chose the name ‘The Power and Control Wheel’ for this website because it represents the broader patterns of abuse that go far beyond physical violence.

The Power and Control Wheel reveals how deeply narcissistic abuse operates — and as a recovery coach, I use this tool to help clients understand their experience. It helps expose how abusers manipulate, isolate, gaslight, and control — including through the weaponization of children, known as parental alienation.  Parental alienation is just one expression of a much wider pattern of narcissistic abuse — a pattern that often goes unrecognised, unspoken, and misunderstood. It must be named for what it is: abuse. Not a minor issue, not a side effect — but a powerful form of coercive control that causes deep harm to both the alienated parent and the child.

While parental alienation is a key tactic, it’s part of a broader cycle of emotional, psychological, and spiritual abuse. The Power and Control Wheel helps expose this wider reality, highlighting the manipulation, isolation, gaslighting, and gatekeeping behaviours that underpin alienation.

It’s time we stop treating this as an isolated issue. We must speak openly about the full scope of the abuse — and validate the pain of those who endure it.

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The Power and Control Wheel is recognised and used by CAFCASS, the Family Justice Council, and across the UK family court system to define domestic abuse. Unfortunately, the system often prioritises ‘domestic abuse’ over recognising ‘parental alienation’, despite the two often being interconnected. Parental alienation is a form of coercive control — and it must be treated as such.

Although the traditional Power and Control Wheel is heavily gendered and frames men as the primary abusers, real-world evidence shows that abuse is not about gender — it’s about power and control. This site pushes back against the outdated gender narrative and ‘male privilege’ rhetoric. Abuse can be enacted by anyone, regardless of sex, social privilege or gender.

Non-biased, peer-reviewed research studies that support the non-gendered nature of abuse include:
– Bates, E. A., Graham-Kevan, N., & Archer, J. (2014). Testing predictions from the male control theory of men’s partner violence. *Aggressive Behavior*, 40(1), 42–55.
– Hines, D. A., & Douglas, E. M. (2010). Intimate terrorism by women towards men: Does it exist? *Journal of Aggression, Conflict and Peace Research*, 2(3), 36–56.
– Straus, M. A. (2008). Dominance and symmetry in partner violence by male and female university students in 32 nations. *Children and Youth Services Review*, 30(3), 252–275.

This website is a safe space for all survivors of abuse, no matter your gender. What matters here is the truth — and restoring your power and peace.

You’re Not Alone!

If you’ve been affected by narcissistic abuse, parental alienation, or family scapegoating, this website is for you.

Kevin Webb (MEd.L, BEd., BA Found., QTS) – Somatic Trauma-Informed Coach, Educator, survivor. I’ve lived through the trauma myself, and I now help others skill up and break free, heal deeply, and live peaceful, purposeful lives.

Why I Created This Website

Too many survivors stay stuck in pain because they’re not getting the right kind of support. Traditional talk therapy often misses the physiological reality of trauma. My work focuses on somatic healing – connecting mind and body – to help you recover from the deep-rooted effects of narcissistic and emotional abuse. Many people don’t realise that without body-based support, healing from narcissistic abuse can take decades. That’s why I became a narcissistic abuse recovery coach — to offer what’s so often missing.

Kevin Webb – My Lived Experience

I was alienated from my paternal family at age seven and lived through years of family dysfunction, scapegoating, and spiritual abuse. I’ve endured toxic relationships, workplace bullying, homelessness, and suicidal ideation. Through faith in Jesus Christ and somatic healing, I’ve rebuilt my life and now enjoy a restored relationship with my children.

For a brief period I went by the safeguarding name of Jack Goodings. My safeguarding was compromised in a big way, and I was defamed across the Parental Alienation community and LinkedIn. This left me with no option but to use my real name ‘Kevin Webb’. This explains why several of my YouTube videos mention ‘Jack Goodings’.

My Specialisms

As a narcissistic abuse recovery coach, I specialise in helping survivors reconnect with their nervous system and sense of self.

I specialise in somatic trauma-informed recovery for survivors of:

– Narcissistic abuse
– Parental alienation
– Family scapegoating
– Workplace bullying

I also work with alienated parents navigating the UK family court system and those struggling with emotional isolation.

Education, Support & Advocacy

Since 2017, I’ve delivered educational talks, peer support, and advocacy for abuse survivors across the UK. I co-organised the 2024 Parental Alienation Conference, built county-wide support groups, and achieved CPD accreditation for a leading UK charity. I also helped influence DWP policy to recognise alienated parents as domestic abuse victims. I speak up for others who are unable to, who have also suffered from narcissistic abuse.

Interviewed internationally by other parental alienation and domestic abuse advocates. These include Maryann Petri, Slam The Gavel and Mary Auld Kovacs podcasts.

Awards & Credentials

– EU National Winner (2017) for social impact with unemployed and economically inactive groups
– Founder, All About Guitars (2012–2017); BA Found.
– CPD Certified in Child & Family Trauma Training (2024)
– DBS Checked, Samaritans Trained, UK DAVIA representative
– Educator (MEd.L/BEd), artist, musician, public speaker

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A Path Forward

Healing from trauma is hard – emotionally and physically. It takes time, truth, and compassion. Through my work as a narcissistic abuse recovery coach, I’ve seen how somatic healing transforms lives — helping survivors move from surviving to thriving. I’m here to help you reclaim peace, rebuild confidence, and reconnect with who you truly are. You can learn to live free from abuse – not just for now, but for the rest of your life.

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